People can find great opportunities at networking events. However, sometimes it can be taxing to deal with large crowds, figure out how to start conversations with strangers, and transition to various topics. Many people end up feeling depleted because they’ve used up their energy as they attempt to showcase their skill sets and put themselves out there. If you feel a drain of energy, it’s probably because you’re exhausted from continuously trying to connect without feeling that the effort paid off. 

That’s why I suggest changing your goal at a networking event. Instead of trying to find “connections” that help you, focus on trying to help others.

Chances are, other people are also searching for connection. It’s simpler to go to an event and try to help other folks have a nice time. Try introducing yourself to a group because it makes it simpler for someone else to introduce themselves. Ask questions so that others have a moment to open up. Follow up on people's stories so they have more opportunities to share. Then, once the conversation starts, it’s much easier to share your own stories and passions.

Connections and great relationships often start when people get help from someone else. That’s why it’s great to help others feel more comfortable and give them chances to shine. It’s something that people remember and appreciate.

So when you go to your next networking event, instead of worrying about yourself, focus on helping the people around you. It’s a great way to make a positive impact at your next networking event.

Author: Bri McWhorter, MFA
© Activate to Captivate, LLC

Networking events are great because they give people an opportunity to connect. They provide space for people to mix, mingle, and meet new folks.

However, networking events can also be intimidating, especially if you’re at an event alone. Part of this is due to the fact that sometimes it can feel impolite to interrupt a group of people talking. However, when we keep to ourselves, we end up missing the purpose of a networking event — to make new connections with unique individuals.

While it can be difficult to approach a new group of people, it’s easier when you have a few opening phrases to say. So at your next networking event, instead of worrying about what to say, try out these phrases instead:

• Hello. I thought I’d lean in to the “networking part” of this event and introduce myself.
• You all look like you’re having fun. Do you mind if I join you?
• Hello. I don’t know anyone here, do you mind if I introduce myself?
• Hi there. I’m _____. Are you having a nice time at the event?
• Hi. Do you mind if I join you over here where it’s quieter? I’m _____.
  

Networking events can be intimidating, but they are far more manageable when you have opening phrases ready to use when trying to connect with new groups of people.


Author: Bri McWhorter, MFA 
© Activate to Captivate, LLC

Whether you’re waiting for someone to log online, or you’re sitting in a conference room before a meeting, people often find themselves in situations where they need to fill time before an event begins. That’s why it’s important to plan out some topics to chat about. People usually connect over the weather, tv shows, sports, etc. But if you have repetitive meetings with people, you’ll want to expand your small talk repertoire.
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That’s why I suggest thinking about:
​What would you like people to imagine you doing when you’re not working together?

I like to think of activities in three categories:
1. When you’re not at work
2. When you’re collaborating with other departments
3. When you’re working on your current projects

For example, perhaps you want people to envision you exploring new places by going hiking or traveling. Then, you could talk about a recent trip you had, or a place you’ve been researching that you’ll go to soon. Or, maybe you want people to imagine you collaborating with different departments. Then, you could share how you just came from a great meeting where you were working with someone on establishing a new initiative in your organization. Or, if you want folks to picture you actively working on your current project, you could share how you’ve been spending time creating a new presentation that you’re going to share with a client. 

No matter what you share during downtime, it’s an opportunity for folks to have more information about you that helps them visualize you in action. That’s why the stories you share through small talk are important. They give other people information to pull from when you’re not around. That’s why it’s good to be intentional about every opportunity you have to connect, including while you wait for something else to begin.

Author: Bri McWhorter
​​© Activate to Captivate, LLC

One of the most common small talk questions is, “What do you do?” People ask this question because it’s a quick and concise way to ask people how they spend the majority of their time. But often, this question doesn’t allow people to open up and connect. 

Folks might answer:
I’m a grad student at X university.
I’m an attorney.
I’m a Developer at X corporation.

Some people will share a little about the type of work they do, but people are often quite succinct and don’t elaborate. This makes it hard to find an organic way to continue the conversation. That’s why I recommend following up by asking people about what aspects of their jobs (or their fields) that they appreciate.

For example you could ask:

What’s something you enjoy about your work at the moment? 
Are you noticing anything changing in your field right now? 
What is one of the best parts of your job?
What is something about your current role that you find interesting?
What’s something you look forward to when you work with your colleagues?

We can always find ways to bond over stress and discomfort, but when you are meeting someone new, it’s good to connect over things that energize or intrigue you. If your goal is to get people to open up, think about also asking them to share things that inspire and motivate them.

Author: Bri McWhorter
​© Activate to Captivate, LLC